Meet Michael, 1Up Facilitator
What is your idea of perfect happiness?
Welcoming whatever is happening. Trusting the universe to be friendly and savouring every moment of my life.
What is your greatest fear?
I used to live in fear but began a campaign to move out of it. My greatest fear now would be feeling that I hadn’t achieved my full positive impact on the world before I die.
What is the personal trait you most admire in yourself?
The huge joy I get out of feeling and expressing authentic appreciation of people, places and food.
What do you consider your greatest achievement?
Raising my daughters to be successful, interesting, great women from the time they were VERY small. The sense of launching them.
What is your greatest regret?
I have no regrets. Everything worked out. Life was full of challenges but I got to connect with my daughters in a way I wouldn’t have expected.
What was the best moment of your life?
There were two: One was being at the births of my daughters, holding them minutes after they were born. The other was a birthday party much later, where my daughters told me what they appreciated about me.
Which words or phrases do you most overuse?
“Actually”. My three year-old grandson started saying it all the time. Also “responsibility”; the ability to respond. After my marriage breakup, I experienced a huge shift in seeing how I always had “the ability to respond”.
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
I would initiate more, be visible. I am a MASTER collaborator. I look for something amazing that other people have started/great ideas, and love to add to it, invisibly on the sidelines.
What is the best thing you do to take care of yourself?
Regular beneficial practices like meditation, writing, breathwork. Putting a priority on my well-being.
What is your personal motto?
“Be present. Connect. Play”
What is your current state of mind?
Excited about curiously exploring all the opportunities that life presents.
What is the best teaching you have passed on to your children?
Something like, “You are an evolving work of art and not a fix-it project”.
As a parent, how do you adapt to such a rapidly-changing world?
Encouraging them to become friendly with “what is”. I believe that the universe is friendly. Along with this belief, I rely on the power of my loving attention to support my children. As long as I could bring myself back to that, we got through.
What are you most proud of giving to your community?
I deeply vale this Centre that is a resource for single parents, since I could so have used a resource like this when I was a single parent. I am proud of finding this place where I can contribute from all that I learned as a single parent.
What would you most like your community to remember about you?
“Michael was the real deal”. We trusted him to keep his agreements and really listen.
What do you choose to celebrate about being a one-parent family?
That we made it through those years doing the best we could. I celebrate the wonderful creativity that comes from a parent’s loving attention. How different each child was and now is. That’s a sign they felt they could fully be themselves.